Thursday, October 1, 2009

Herbalife diet

I would like you to meet my new best friend.
After having let myself go and gain way way to much weight after stopping smoking 4 years ago,I decided I needed to take some steps and improve my health.Get fit and loose some major weight.
My goal is to loose 60-70pds by next April.
On September 23 I started doing these Herbalife protein drinks. One for breakfast and again at noon then a sensible meal in the evening.After one week on the program I've lost 6 pds and 2 inches overall.
My coach is having me be her ginnie pig err should I say tester and now try a 10 day program that is supposed to loose 10pds in 10 days.She is allowing me to try this and I've been drumming up business for her left and right.Well at least many many interested people.
Sooooooooo We will see if Mr.Brian can get down to a good size and become healthy again.
Oh and as for the shakes,they taste very good.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

But God he was only 10 years old.

Tragedy has struck our small community for the second time this month.A few weeks ago a young mother,wife and caring person died from a brain aneurysm.She was only 49.She had remarried after her first husband died at the age of 29 leaving her with 3 small boys.Some years later she remarried and had a child with her new husband.She passed away after a very short illness,leaving 3 boys 18-22 now without a mom or dad, and a 14 year old with out a mom.

Fast forward to this past Sunday.A distant friend of mine lost her 10 year old son in a car accident.the parents are divorced and the son was with his dad for a few days.His older brother was with a different family member at the time.(Gavin) was an unbelted front seat passenger in his dads car when they hit an other car head on after the father crossed the center
There is much more to this very sad story that I do not feel I should share, but there could be multiple charges brought against the dad of Gavin.
This family is in desperate need of prayer.
1.For emotional healing for all the family's,parents,brother,grand parents aunts uncles etc.
2.For the mother to some how be able to forgive the father of the son.(her ex husband).
3.For the 14 year old brother who was always with his little brother.
4.For the many classmates who do not fully understand this.
5.For myself and many others who also do not understand why.As I go to work and see and hear residents talk who want to or in my mind need to (because of no quality of life) die.
6. For a community who grieves the loss as well.
Please pray and ask your friends to pray as well.There are so many hurts and anger and hard feelings that many including me,need to deal with.
Thanks so much,

Gavin Ray Wrather june 10 1999-July 26 2009.

Friday, July 17, 2009

What is behind the door?

My oh my it has been ages since I posted.Like my mom always said if you don't have anything to say don't say anything at all.(OK so maybe she didn't say that,but it sounded good to start with).
I had been on a bit of a dry spell at work until the past few weeks.Maybe I am becoming more accustomed to what they all say and do and no longer find it as funny,or I figure maybe it is only funny to those I work with.
Anyway,let me share a few of the past weeks antics at the nursing home. I was answering a call light to one of the residents rooms.I enter and ask what may I do for you?She responds by telling me I need to get the kids out of her closet because they were taking all her clothes off the hangers.Forgetting I was told she was more confused and had a possible UTI, I looked and said what kids,there are no kids here.She persisted yes there are and I want them out.Finally the light bulb came on to full wattage for this dim lit man.I went to the closet,slid the door to the side,(they have closets that have sliding doors to show each side).I very firmly said,all right I want you kids out of here now!!GET OUT! (Name) doe snot want you in here any more.I pointed to the door and again said now go!!!As my chest expanded from a job well done and having saved yet an other women in distress, I felt I had again I succeeded, I had tricked an old confused person and made them happy.
Having finished my job I looked at her and said is that better,they are gone now?She looked at me and said NO!No I asked what do you mean I chased them away.She looked at me and said,well they were on the other side of the closet.LOLOLOLOL Well strike one for me,no luck on that job of truth bending.
Two days later with medication not having done it's entire job yet she was still seeing people in her room.This time I was ready.As I was getting her dressed for the day she asked if those women with the most beautiful white hair were spending the night again.I asked did they last night?Yes but they slept in the basements she told me,but they refused to sleep there again,so were they going to sleep in her room? I was ready this time,and fast thinking too if I must say so myself.I said No dear, I got them reservations at the Super 8 in town.Ding,ding Yes we have a winner Brian 1 resident 1.That one she bought.Later that day as I was helping her husband she wanted to know why that man was under her husbands bed.I assured her there was no man under his bed.But Nooooooooooooooooooo she was continuing to ask so I said we will ask your husband.I said (name) do you see anyone under your bed/ He looked at me like I was as crazy as her and said NO. So I said see there is no one there.Still not happy she said well you're both crazy and if you will not do anything I am leaving,I am moving out.I said well where are you going? She refused to tell me,but I persisted saying I need to know where to send your mail.
LOLOLOL Humor did not work either.
Happy to report she is now doing better and no longer seeing people in her room.
We were talking about resident who had passed away and some of the fun ones and I was reminded of this fun one.
I was feeding an old (over 100 yrs) lady one day and asked if she wanted a handsome,good looking young man to feed her. She looked at me smirk and said...yeah you know where there are any.Slam...Burst my bubble big time.Made my co-workers laugh for a long time.
I no longer know my name. I am called Byron,Myron,Dawn to name a few.So if ever you see me on the street just call out any name I may just answer.
Well that pretty much catches you up to date on my life.Hope yours has as many laughs as well.

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Mr. Brian has a New Profession!!

Thankyou Joe and Becky for getting this done for me.I would not have gotten it done without your help.

This was done to promote a social we are having at church.Hope you enjoy it.

Julia and Mr.Brian

Saturday, May 23, 2009

Little kids and old people

I will be the first to admit I am over weight,no arguing that.I have seen pictures of me and it is sad.
The other day at work I was giving showers to residents at work.Now when I am at work I am almost always HOT, and I don't me as in sexy I mean temperature.This day was no exception.Figure 5-6 showers in a small room, in just maybe 3 hours time.Hot water and steam= sweating for Mr.Brian.
As I was giving one man his shower I commented on how warm I was as I wiped sweat from my head and neck.He looked at me and said,well maybe if you weren't so fat you wouldn't be so hot.I looked at him and said, that was not a very nice thing to say.He gave me a look like who cares and said....... well if you don't like hearing that you better lose some weight.
His funeral is Tuesday,died from drowning in the shower.KIDDDDDINGGGGG.I just smiled,shock my head,mumbled under my breath and got him dressed.
Imagine the fun we can have when we get old,say what ever you want to.It should be fun.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Mr. Brian is FAMOUS!!!

Ok, so it's not a TV Channel, but it is his blog so he's famous!!!! Woo-hoo, Mr. Brian!! Go HERE to see him - but watch fast - he's a quick mover!!!

The fun begins

Today,Thursday May 14 Begin 3 day of fun, food and lots of visitors.
Our 69th annual Tulip Festival begins. I love,love, love the Tulip Festival.
I work every morning in the information booth,from there I go dutch dance,to carry flags and go through the parade aging pushing the flower cart.(as seen in picture).I think that is my favorite part,after all I scope the crowd for elderly women and offer them a tulip.There is just one catch,they must give me a kiss on the cheek to get it.No kiss,no tulip.
The food, the people did I mention the food. It just does not get any better then this.
For those of you who know Becky, stop by her blog or email her and ask what she does for the festival!!! I hear she hides in her home.
Gotta go, somewhere a person has a question for me.
For more great pictures go to

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

God opened a door.

Last night as I was visiting dad in the hospital and we were talking he said how he felt he was given a second chance at life.He had been told by his doctor that he could have died from as sick as he was.I feel this was a real awakening for him.
When dad opened the door with his comment I jumped at the chance to talk to him.I flat out told him yes you were given a second chance and you need to change.The drinking needs to stop.He did agree with me.I told him how mom had shared that right now he was the man she married years ago.The fun loving happy man.
That was all I said. I was not going to preach,nag or be bossy.(I had done that once getting him to the hospital.)I planted the seed,now I will let him decide.
I hope and pray that maybe by the grace of god this will be the time he decided to change.
For everything there is a reason, and I hope and pray that some good will come from this.
Thanks be to God.

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Thoughts for you

As I think of Mothers Day this year I think it means much more to me.I wonder every year if this will be the last year I have my mom with me.In the back of my mind I always say this may be our last one together.I know with my moms bad heart she will not live to be an old lady.And now I also think of how maybe my dad could be the first to go.I tell myself I will be strong and be strong for my parent who is left alone.
But mostly at mothers day I think of the many many children and adults who are going through their first mothers day without mom.No being able to say one more time how you love them.Knowing that mothers day will never be the same.I think every day should be a day we tell others how much we love them.Be it the second Sunday of May or the third Friday of September,we need to be sure to always tell people we love them.
So to all you moms I wish you a very Happy Mothers Day. To you who are having your first Mothers day without your loved ones I offer this prayer for you.

Heavenly Father I ask that you be with those who are feeling an emptiness this year as they are missing mom or grandma.I pray that today they reflect on the wonderful memories they shared in past years and that those memories bring a smile to their face and a joy in their hearts.Let these memories fill their hearts with joy and put a song in their heart.
May you find great joy in your hearts today and always.

Please continue to lift my parent in prayer as dads heart is still doing funny things and his pneumonia improves.Also for my mom as this is wearing her out as well.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Fred Nightengale update

This has been what I've been looking at and listening to today.Dad had a second spell with his heart during the night and now he is on a heart monitor.Well is/was if all goes well he maybe can come off it late tonight.That is if his rate stays below 100.
He saw the cardiologist today and the first reports have brought some concerns to us.After talking with dad the doctor thinks there is some blockage,however at this time because of his pneumonia he is unable to do any testing.The doctor said his lungs would not take it.So once he is feeling better they can check that out.
He is still extremely weak and having a tough time breathing.His O2 stats stay at around 88-90%, where 100% would be good.And this is with oxygen.His spirits are good and some count that is supposed to be 1 is now in the 20's it was 43 when he was admitted.My neighbor doctor said most times when someone comes in it is high teens low 20's, so we do have a way to go there.
We ask for continued prayers for him and my mom as well.
Thanks in advance.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Playing Florence Nighengale errr Fred Nightengale

I stopped bye my parents house today after work to say hi and borrow something from dad.I was greeted by a very sick man.Dad was coughing and coughing and sounded like a very sick man.I asked right away what was wrong and he said Ohh I've got this cough.I asked if he had been to the doctor and I knew what the answer would be but asked anyway.I was right a very firm NO was his response.Mom chimed in and said I told him he needed to go but he won't listen.After some more severe coughing that was sounding more like a seal or a dog barking I said, I am calling the clinic and picked up the phone.It was already 4:00 p.m and of course there were no openings , so I was told I could call back in the morning or take him to ER.I hung up and said I am taking you to ER.No argument he went to the bathroom and walked to the car.
When we got there he was saying in a dad voice I am fine and calling me a bossy son for taking him. Long story short, he had a temp of 102 degrees and has pneumonia.
Mom has a Dr.Apt out of town and does not like to drive in the city so I am taking her.Thank goodness for great coworkers who will help out so I can help my parents.
I think I have just had a small dose of what to look forward to as they get older.
I thank my experience working in the nursing home to know when to be a bossy child.

************ An update for Wendsday afternoon,he is now having some serious heart problems and will be seeing a heart specialist on Thursday.I would appreciate prayers please.Also for my mom as her health problems are always a concernas well.*****************

Thursday, April 30, 2009

2009 Orange City Tulip Festival TV Ad

Check out the good looking man pushing the flower cart.
For more great pictures and details go to the web site.

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Finding the right words

No one ever told me the hard part of my job would be finding the right words at times. There are the common easy asked questions,what's the weather like,what time is it,what is for lunch,when will I get my bath???You get the picture.However there is no way to be prepared to find the words to say to the husband who just lost his wife.There are no words to say when a resident asks where is my _________ ?( you fill in the blank).But two of the hardest questions to answer are, I wish the good Lord would take me,why don't I die,and what do I have to live for,followed by I will never leave here again.
Finding the right words are not always be easy.It breaks my heart to hear the 102 year old lady saying I think God forgot about me. To hear the almost 101 year old man saying he wishes he could die and be with his wife again. I do not think there are ever the right words,but maybe just maybe letting them know I understand even if I do not have the answers helps.To reassure them that one day they WILL be in their heavenly home, reunited with loved one.Is that enough???
Seeing the spouse crying as they empty out the room of their spouse that has just passed away, and all you can say is I am sorry or you have my sympathy.Is this enough????
Every day we are faced with a challenge of finding the right words.Be it with our parents, siblings, friends, children or spouse we often struggle to find those words.
Are you ready? Do you have the words to say to someone.Knowing that I walk with the lord daily helps me to know maybe I will have those words I need. Tomorrow.... what will tomorrow bring.Are you ready????Will you have the words???
May god bless you and your family as I have been blessed.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Needed a new look

After the winter was over I decided I was in need of a beauty makeover.I was tired of the same look I had for some time,not to mention the extra baggage I had as well.

So I know what you are thinking,gee how bad did things look? Could winter be that bad?What person would addmitt this on their blog?

Hold on I am not talking about myself here, I am refering to my blog.So if you are in need of a makeover for spring,if you want a new look,if you want to help a great cause doa s I did and have Busy Mama Blog Designs help you like they helped me.

Just click on the link at the busy Mama Blog Design logo on my side bar and give them some business.You will be glad you did,and you will be helping a great cause to bring Jada Faith home.

Friday, April 17, 2009

So thrilled.

I heard some wonderful news this week and I want to share it with all of you.
My very dear friends the Bilby's recieved there referal this week for an almost 3 year old girl.
I has been a very long journey for them and I invite you to follow their story.
just go to
and read their story. It will be sure to touch your heart as it did mine.
Sorry they are not allowed to show her picture as of now but soon will.
Also sorry i do not know how to do the thing so you click on and it takes you to their blog.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

Need I say More


What a wonderful gift.

Saturday, April 4, 2009

It's working

Thanks to the new medication Mr.Brian is starting to feel better and sleep better.
Go Zoloft!!!!!!

Saturday, March 28, 2009


This pretty much describes how I've been feeling lately.
Just want to stand there and scream.Only problem is it would not do any good.
Can anyone tell me why sometimes life just has to be so darn crappy and stressful?
There are days I just wish life would have no stress or problems.But we all know that will never happen now will it.

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Had to share this.

I decided that I had some good material to work with and needed to post a blog again.
One of the greatest parts of my job other then caring for the elderly is hearing what they have to say. This week was no exception. I hope you laugh as much as I did.

Today I was helping a resident who usually sleeps all the time and seldom talks much.She is very,very hard of hearing so when she does decide to talk it is usually very loud. One of my coworkers and I were washing her up today and as we were washing her mid section she loudly said to me,"you're getting pretty fresh,I am going to tell your wife.' Before this she saw me wiping sweat from my brow and she asked..'do you drink beer?" "They say drinking beer makes you sweat"
Later she was asking for the helicopter because she needed to go to Sunday School and her husband was not picking her up yet.He has been gone for years so I would guess a helicopter would not have been the answer.

Overhearing a phone call that went like this..(only hearing what was said by the resident), I would love to go to Sioux City with you tomorrow but I have a problem with urination.You see, I feel I have to go about every 30-45 minutes but then when I try nothing comes out.So I am afraid that would be to long a ride in the car.(around 1 hour). He is going the man promised to stop on the way.
Yes this is why I love my job.
Ohh yeah one more.
A gal I was working with asked the man we were helping what her name was, he answered Michelle.Ding ding correct answer.So I asked him what my name was,he answered Dawn.I said Dawn is a woman's name do I look like a women.He answered sometimes.After picking up my coworker off the floor from laughing so hard,I just said my name is Brian , and left the room.Do you think it was my man boobs??
Hope your work is as fun as mine can be.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Shutting down

It has become obvious to me my blog is not being read much any more because of the lack of comments.I know people are very busy with there family life and other things.
Because of the lack of interest I have decided to retire this blog for some time.
I may be back I may not I am not sure.
I'll still stop by and check you out but for now I see no need to continue with my blog.
It has been great fun getting to know all of you and I will keep in touch.Thanks for all the encouraging words in the past.
Over and Out..

Saturday, January 31, 2009


I am giving a testimony in church tomorrow.
I will be sharing on how friendship and a person never giving up on me got me through my darkest days during my depression years ago.
I kept feeling this poke from God telling me to talk to my pastor and to give this testimony.So one Sunday when he was preaching he asked what was the greatest gift you ever received it was like God had given me this extra big nudge to talk to the pastor.
I did and now tomorrow I am speaking at the two services.As the time gets closer the idea does not seem as good.LOLOL!!! I think it is called nerves.
My point will be,no matter how frustrated we get with someone we must remember that there is a good person trying to get out.We may have a child,spouse,parent or friend who is making poor choices,but if we keep supporting and praying for them and they work at their problem some day we will again see the positive effects of it.
I just hope and pray my mouth and mind will work together and I do not shake to bad from nerves.Sometime I just hate those pokes from God,but he does have a reason for this.

God Bless all of you,

******** It went very well.God kept me calm and I was able to say what I wanted to.And I know it was ment to be because after the service I has a few people tell me how they or others also battled depression too.If my talks made a differance for one or two others it is all worth it.
See God did have a plan.**************

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Need advice

It is my hope some of you may have some great suggestions for me on this subject.
Seems I deal with it more and more at work and do not know how to reply always.Sorry to say at times I join in,but have been working very hard at not joining in.
I am talking about people with negative attitudes.Ones who back stab, and always have a complaint. When i suggest that they take it to the boss I always hear a "No she will not do anything anyway".I respond by saying..."Well how can they if you do not tell them"?
Uggg it almost drains me some days.
Sooooo how do you handle these kind of co-workers??? Any suggestions would be helpful.
And no I cannot just tell em to shut up.That is not the way a lead mentor does things.

Thursday, January 15, 2009

A thought for the day

Need I say more?

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Baby it's cold out there.

It is 6:00 p.m. and already -7 degrees with a wind chill of -25 degrees. Calling for a -20 to -25 degrees tonight.That is temp not wind chill.
A good night to stay by the heater. A day like this would be a great time for a fire place.
So how is the weather where you are??????If you want tell us the state and weather, maybe I'll head your way for a few days.
I love the snow just not the below zero temps.
Oh well I may as well accept it because I can not change it and I have no plans of moving.It is to warm up by the weekend so there is hope in sight.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

When it is time for the nursing home.

A laugh for the day.

Friday, January 9, 2009

Time of year.

As I have shared in the past I often struggle with depression this time of year.And again this year is no exception.I am happy it is not as bad as in the past,but I still have that feeling of pressure inside of me.That feeling of frustration and just wanting to bury your head under a pillow and forget the world.The feeling of wanting to spend all you time in bed and shut out everyone around you.
However I have learned that does not work.You make yourself do things.You put on that happy front and you make yourself cheerful.And after some time with the help of higher powers you see a glimmer of light.You know better days are ahead.You are thankful for friends who encourage you,pray for and with you.You look around and soon see so many have bigger hurts and pains to bare then you do.So you hold your head up high and you say this too shall pass.And it does.
In a few weeks I will be sharing in church my journey through my struggles and the special gift I received of a friend who never gave up.
A lesson I try (not always easy)to follow.Knowing that despite all the bad we may see in a person some where deep inside a good person is trying to get out.
So please remember you may have a friend,child,spouse, or parent who has a problem that may hurt us,but they are also hurting and there is that good person trying to come out and be a happy person free of what ever their problem is.
I have come to decide even with my dads drinking, there still is a great man ,but he has problems he has yet to address.
May you be as blessed as I have been.

Saturday, January 3, 2009


Thanks to the mystery person who again changed my blog.
I was excited and surprised when I went to it and found a new look.
As always I loved it and it made my day!!!
Thank You mystery women!!!!
Also please be in prayer for our friends the Bilbey's.Joe's father passed away early this morning in Michigan.Pray for safe travel as they head to Michigan and for peace as they say good bye to a loved one.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Marley and Me

I just got home from seeing this movie.
If you are a dog lover like me you will enjoy the movie.I think anyone can relate to some of the things this dog has done in the movie.
I will not spoil any of it for you but to only say be prepared to laugh and cry.
There are a very few parts that may not be kid friendly,but very short parts.I think it was child friendly,as I saw many many kids their with the mom's and dad's.
On a scale of 1-5 I would give it a 4 1/2.
Please let me know if any of you have seen it, I would enjoy hearing what you thought.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Happy 2009

Warmest wishes as we start a New Year!!
May this year bring much happiness and new adventures to everyone.
May the heartaches of 2008 be forgotten and your goals and dreams for the new year met.
Thanks for allowing me into your heart and homes.